but i love him anyway
now that i calmed down a little and i can think more rationally, i can defend my husband, as i said i would. it takes two to cause problems in a relationship, which means that i am at fault as well. my problem is that i expect my husband to 1)be horny all the time, since i always thought that guys are always up for sex (no pun intended) and that they aren't allowed to say they're too tired or basically give any excuses and 2)to always initiate sex, which of course is totally unfair, but the couple of times that i've been turned down just hurt me enough to discourage me. i know it's stupid, and there are plenty of times that my husband comes into my bed and the truth is, he makes me feel so good an relaxed and calm that i end up falling asleep! and he's so sweet about it, in the morning he'll say in a joking way, you won't believe what happened last night, and he'll make light of the fact that he wanted me so bad and i just fell asleep. so maybe even though he jokes about it, he gets discouraged just like i do. i was always under the impression that if the wife shows interest and the husband says he's too tired, something's wrong there cuz guys always wanna do it. but i guess that is a little crazy and even maybe puts too much pressure on a guy. anyway, i want to tell you as much as i can think of right now about why i think my husband is the best husband in the world, and when you're done reading this, i'm sure you'll agree. don't read it if you're gonna be jealous though!
1)right now, just thinking about how much i love him and all that he does for me makes me all warm inside.
2)he's crazy about our kids and he helps me out with them all the time. and he doesn't even look at it as doing me a favor. he knows that it pays to invest as much time as possible in them because he's fostering a relationship that will last a lifetime. our kids are totally in love with him and he's so devoted to them.
3)he listens to me go on and on about my day, my job, things that drive me crazy, and anything else that comes out of my mouth.
4)when we do have sex, he remembers and does what i like.
5)he makes me laugh (not makes like forces, but does things that crack me up).
6)he's nice to my family even though my family is nuts.
7)he realizes that his family is also nuts and listens when i say not nice things about them even though i shouldn't.
8)he appreciates when i make dinner and always tells me that i'm such a good cook, but doesn't complain when i'm too lazy and just get takeout, or don't bother to even get takeout and send him to do it instead.
9)he never bothers me about how much money i spend, or asks me how much something costs, and he's genuinely happy when i spend money on myself (although he thought i went a bit overboard when i chucked my old wigs and got two new ones, but he still didn't freak out like some other guys would, and he's happy now cuz he sees how much more chilled out i am about covering my hair). i want to make it clear that i'm not critical of guys who want their wives to be careful about money and who need to be cautious in order to make ends meet, and that's all i'm gonna say about that, because as usual, i have a lot more to say about that but i wanna stay focused.
10)i can talk to him about anything.
11)he emails me articles that he thinks i would find interesting.
13)he apologizes when he's wrong.
14)he can't wait til he makes enough money for me to stop working.
15)he doesn't get annoyed when i call him a thousand times a day at work to tell him stupid things that i just want to tell him and could really wait til later but i know i'll forget if i wait.
16)we're a real team. we do things together, especially when it comes to decisions about our kids. he is literally my other half, my rock, my hero, the one person in the world i can truly count on to take care of me, to love me, to cherish me, to hold me, to understand me and all my idiosyncracies, of which there are many. any emotion that i ever feel, i count of him to share it with me. i call him (if he's in work)/talk to him to tell him any time something funny happens, if i get upset about something, if i have to cry, if i'm hurt, disappointed, happy, scared, nervous etc. if i ever have something to share with someone, the first person i share it with is my husband. and he always does the right thing to help me with what i need. i can spend all night continuing this list, but i think you get the basic ides. he really is my knight in shining armor, and i'll never let him go.